We give them ourselves We give them each other We give them roots We give them wings

We give them ourselves

We became a family because we were in love. But as the children came, it became easier to love them, than to love each other. There is nothing more secure for a child, than for him to have parents who love one another. Till death do us part, for better or for worse. Everyday, we are learning how to love each other again.

We give them each other

They have their good days and they have their bad days. We teach them, that they are each other’s best friends. Unlike the unconditional love they receive from us, they have to earn each other’s respect, and they do. They have learnt to live with each other – have fun, fight, patch up and play together again. We are proud of them.

We give them roots

My child first came to the world, with my blood in his. He may leave us one day, but our genes stay forever in his. He grows up in our world and according to our choices. One day he will choose his own world, and live with his own choices. We give him a past, so he knows, that he is not alone in history. He is part of a narrative from long ago, which has endured till now. He has value. He has great worth.

We give them wings

My child has but one life to live. He wants to be happy, and I want him to live it as a righteous man. Happiness takes hard work, and being righteous even harder work. We give him all that we can, not necessarily everything he needs. For his destiny is beyond us, and he has to find his own ways and his own answers.

Ingrained in each child - in his heart and the depths of his being - is a dream. This dream is that which the child desires to do, for it gives meaning to his life. Walk with us, as we help our children reach their destinies, and discover our own.

08th Dec 2011

It’s the school holidays. What are we to do?

  I have a love-hate relationship with the school holidays.  I am sure many SAHM can identify with that.  I hate having my routine disrupted, and feeling the stress of...

06th Dec 2011

Teaching and training

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04th Dec 2011

My son, my hero

Two days ago Elkan revealed something which made me very proud of him.  Elias was teasing Elkan to no end and I stopped him, saying that just because Elkan does...

04th Dec 2011

Standing up for each other

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04th Dec 2011

Son of Hamas

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04th Dec 2011

Beauty in the eyes of the beholder

This morning Elkan read the article on Fiona Fussi, who at age 15, won the Elite model contest, and who was photographed in a bikini. He also read another article...

04th Dec 2011

Sanctuary of space and time

  Recently I started lighting candles in the bathroom and my bedroom.  It started off as a feeble attempt at making the evenings more relaxing for my husband. The candle-lighting...

04th Dec 2011

A good divorce

Today (13 Nov 2011), there was an article titled ‘The good divorce’ by Susan Gregory Thomas in the Sunday Times. I was impressed with how much effort they put in,...

04th Dec 2011

Soul Food

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04th Dec 2011

Wisdom from the mouths of babes

Introduction Part of being a good parent requires us to understand the perspective of the child – the ability to see the world through his/her eyes. This column contains the...

04th Dec 2011

For better or for worse

Introduction   I once watched a ‘Chicken soup’ movie, about a boy whose parents were fighting and contemplating divorce.  At the ‘Parent-Teacher-Conference’, they saw a picture drawn by the son. ...

04th Dec 2011

From a mummy’s heart

Introduction Once, in preparation for an interview on ‘Zao An Ni Hao’, I was asked this question: “What is one thing which you feel that a mother should do more of?” ...