We give them ourselves We give them each other We give them roots We give them wings

We give them ourselves

We became a family because we were in love. But as the children came, it became easier to love them, than to love each other. There is nothing more secure for a child, than for him to have parents who love one another. Till death do us part, for better or for worse. Everyday, we are learning how to love each other again.

We give them each other

They have their good days and they have their bad days. We teach them, that they are each other’s best friends. Unlike the unconditional love they receive from us, they have to earn each other’s respect, and they do. They have learnt to live with each other – have fun, fight, patch up and play together again. We are proud of them.

We give them roots

My child first came to the world, with my blood in his. He may leave us one day, but our genes stay forever in his. He grows up in our world and according to our choices. One day he will choose his own world, and live with his own choices. We give him a past, so he knows, that he is not alone in history. He is part of a narrative from long ago, which has endured till now. He has value. He has great worth.

We give them wings

My child has but one life to live. He wants to be happy, and I want him to live it as a righteous man. Happiness takes hard work, and being righteous even harder work. We give him all that we can, not necessarily everything he needs. For his destiny is beyond us, and he has to find his own ways and his own answers.

Ingrained in each child - in his heart and the depths of his being - is a dream. This dream is that which the child desires to do, for it gives meaning to his life. Walk with us, as we help our children reach their destinies, and discover our own.

07th Aug 2013

Worth the wait

When we were planning our New Zealand trip, another friend was also planning the same for her family of six. We excitedly exchanged notes and lamented about the high cost...

31st Jul 2013

Thank you Elias, for making me a performer

I have a Grade 8 certificate in piano. But I stopped playing the piano after I got married, because I had left the piano back at my mother’s place. When...

25th Jul 2013

Different learning differences

Last Sunday another forum writer responded to the article written by Ms Sandra Davie. His letter “Hot-housing pre-schoolers has its limits” took a different angle from what I wrote here. I...

17th Jul 2013

Our Joyalicious June Holiday

As a family, we love to take photos. Photos are the ways by which we remember our lives together. I used to print out 4R photos to keep, and once...

14th Jul 2013

Test and help dyslexic kids early (full version)

Last Sunday, Ms Sandra Davie wrote an article titled “Master reading, maths early for a good start in life” I wrote a letter in response to it, and my letter...

06th Jul 2013

While it is hazy – go the extra mile

Some of you might have seen the video, produced by a young man, about giving out masks and “liang teh” to people, during the haze. Well, his name is Josiah....

19th Jun 2013

Singapore Kindness Day 2013

The Singapore Kindness Movement (SKM) very kindly gave “A litter at a time” an award on 31 May 2013, at the inaugural Kindness Day SG, in appreciation of our act of...

14th Jun 2013

Forgive me, for doing everything wrong

I stumbled upon this post, about a young man’s relationship with his stepfather. Reading it as a mother, it made me sad. “She asked me if I thought she was...

08th Jun 2013

So this is how it all begins

It has been three days without Elias. This is not the first time he has been away from the family. He has gone for school and church camps previously, but...

24th May 2013

This is your path – walk in it

While catching up on my blogging, I pulled up this song “路要自己走” (You have to walk this path on your own). (The lyrics, English and Chinese, are at the bottom...

21st May 2013

Campervan Travel

We toured South Island, New Zealand from 4 – 18 Dec 2012.  We saw Christchurch, Kaikoura, Greymouth, Franz Josef, Wanaka, Queenstown, Dunedin, Lake Tekapo and Mt Cook. We spent 10 nights...

04th May 2013

Easy breakfast ideas – Guest post

My last breakfast post has been long overdue. The truth is that I am still struggling with breakfast for my children. However, I have people around me whom I can...